By: Danielle Sherman-Lazar
I have been hearing a lot of self-loathing amongst the mommy population lately and I am not liking it. Not liking it one bit. It’s also sad that every single woman can relate to feeling bad about herself at a time, appearance wise—words like frumpy, fat, old, and ugly come to mind. We can all relate, because we have all felt less than.
Yesterday I came across something that saddened me. By the way, Kylie Jenner, I am not blaming you—I am all about woman supporting each other and damn no one with eyes can deny you look hot in that picture (girl knows how to rock a bikini!), but here is my problem with it. I am cold-clocking you hard with my eyes society. It’s that little caption underneath that sexy photo that says “summer goals.” For people that don’t keep up with the Kardashians (pun intended) like me, Kylie just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl Stormi.
I gave birth to a baby girl in September and I am here to counter these “summer goals” with my own and challenge Kylie and moms like her to think outside of their postpartum bods. Being in that place twice, I can say this new body will be the best body Kylie will have yet. This body will feed her baby—nourish her into the thriving sweet girl she will become right before her eyes. This body will be so strong—it will pick up her growing daughter with ease. The one thing I can guarantee, is that this body, this new body, has never been loved more than she is starting to experience.
It’s time for all new moms to look beyond their bodies for “summer goals.” Happiness and beauty truly come from within. Beauty comes from your mind and creativity. It comes from how kind you are to others. Kindness toward yourself is something you would want your children to emulate. So please, be kind to yourself. Let’s change how our kids will feel once they have the most wonderful gift in the world, a baby boy or girl.
This summer my goals will be (see picture above):
- More living in the moment
- More grandparent time
- More time appreciating the outdoors
- More fun play spaces to discover
- More baby kisses and snuggles
- Less time getting beaten by a crazy toddler
- Less morning milk (solve my hyper-lactation problem)
- More family time
- More time getting genuine laughs and smiles
So Kylie, when you rock that bikini this summer (and you will), even if you don’t lose a pound, I am telling you it is going to be your favorite body yet because your daughter is going to love it–and you are going to appreciate all that it does–imperfections and all.
What will your “summer goals” collage look like?
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About the Author: About the author: Dani Sherman-Lazar is an eating disorder advocate five years in recovery from anorexia and bulimia, Vice President of a transportation company, and a mother to two daughters—a two-year-old and a six-month-old. Follow her on her blog Living a Full Life After ED (https://