Skeleton by LoveLikeViolence

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Hello everyone!

This is a music video from the  group LoveLikeViolence. The song is called Skeleton. It highlights the pain and fear of living with an eating disorder, and is POTENTIALLY GRAPHIC AND TRIGGERING FOR THOSE WHO ARE STRUGGLING. That being said, we share it with you to highlight that there is hope, that you can get out of that hellish place and be completely free from your eating disorder. 75% of proceeds from the song will go to the Project HEAL treatment grant.

Lets Help Miss Colorado, and Project HEAL Win!

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Miss Colorado KimKimberly Dufrense , founder of the Colorado Project HEAL chapter, is the reigning Mrs. Colorado International. As  a personal survivor of an ED, her chosen platform is ED and positive self-esteem and body image advocacy.  She will be competing at nationals for the title of Mrs. International 2015 in Florida in late July.

The pageant has an alliance with the American Heart Association – Go Red For Women.  They’ve created a fundraising campaign, by having a contest for an On-line Winner for all the titleholders.

The winner will get half the proceeds raised by on-line votes, and the other half is donated to the AHA – Go Red For Women. Votes are just $1/vote, with a minimum of 5 votes or $5.She has pledged to donate 100%  of the proceeds to Project HEAL if she wins the online voting.  This will directly benefit Project HEAL. 

unnamedTo vote, click HERE,   find Kimberly Dufresne’s name, Mrs. Colorado International, and click on the “Vote For This Contestant” tab under her photo.

Miss ColoradoTo check out Kims work, her  Facebook page Mrs. Colorado International 2015 Project HEAL – Denver Chapter Lastly, web .


Sorry Not Sorry

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Born and raised in San Diego, Allyce Torres is an actor, poet and teaching artist, making her new home in Chicago. She is a graduate of Wesleyan’s BFA Acting Program, and the creator of Skin Deep- a theatrical initiative that focuses on awareness, expression, and supplemental treatment in young people with eating disorders and disordered eating. She is a Very Happy Company member at Halcyon Theater. She is a sister, a bossy girl, a beach enthusiast,  lover of fairytales, and hater of snow.

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One of the most common responses I get when I tell people I’m in recovery for an eating disorder is “Oh, I’m so sorry.”

Sorry.I always find this so strange. Not because I think it lacks empathy or because I think it’s a weak response, but because- bear with me- I’m not.I’m not sorry about what I went through. I’m not sorry for what I go through every dayandI’m not sorry for not shutting up about it.I’m not a victim. I’m a Soldier and I’m not sorry for the war I’m fighting. My ED taught me so much about myself, my body, other people, and the world than I could have ever learned without it. I honestly and wholeheartedly believe that it made me a better person and I would not erase that part of my life.Hear me out.

Last year, I went to the ANAD (Association for Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders) Conference and heard the speech of Dr. Walter H. Kaye (the  Director of UCSD’s Eating Disorder Program). He spoke on his belief that the traits that pre-dispose people to eating disorders (i.e. harm avoidance, high achievement rates, perfectionism, organization, etc.) are qualities that we would normally attribute as “good” qualities to possess. They make for a functioning and contributory member of society. However, these qualities get kicked into over drive when the person begins using them to sculpt a coping mechanism and, hence, an eating disorder develops.

Obviously, it’s more complicated than that, and other factors key in, but that is the cliff notes version. What Dr. Kaye says is that, instead of focusing on removing the eating disorder from the person in recovery, we should be focusing on teaching them how to follow the eating disorder back to it’s “good traits” roots. Therefore, we are no longer excising the eating disorder, but rather learning which parts of it can serve us in a positive way in our lives.For me, this makes a lot of sense.I used to really hate my ED. I am still mad at it. It seemed as thought it was this out of control force that hijacked my life and was subsequently ruining it. But if I think about it, there is a lot that my eating disorder taught me that I am thankful for. It helped me as much as it could when I needed to get through a really difficult time. It was a coping mechanism. And that’s what it helped me to do.

It taught me a fully intimate knowledge of my souls dark and light, my emotional spectrum, about my will power. It taught me about relationships with other people. It taught me about vulnerability. It taught me who to trust. It taught me that some people will stay and some will run away and some will stay for a while until they need to leave and that some are here for the long haul. It taught me that none of the aforementioned decisions are my fault and that they were decisions made  by other people outside of my control. It taught me the power and strength of unconditional love. It taught me about the body’s ability to survive. It taught me to speak to my body in whispered exchanges and arguments. It taught me every physical capability and limit I have. It taught me that at the end of the day, no matter how hard I might try to climb out side of my body and sever the ties that bind us, this body is mine. I’m stuck with it. So I might as well listen to it.

I read this blurb by Courtney E. Martin the other day and it really spoke to me:”It takes tremendous will and determination to fight your natural cravings each and every day. It takes finely tuned control to resist the excess all around you. It also takes profound depth of emotion to buckle under this pressure, to eat until you are bloated with the evidence of your own fragility. And revolting as it is, it takes real, physical strength and strategy to find a toilet where you can rid yourself of this fragility. If you harnessed just a fraction of this will, determination, control, emotional depth, strength, and strategy to get better, to take care of yourself, to resist the culture’s monotonous messaging, imagine how powerful you could be.”It may seem convoluted, and I know that not every Recovery Warrior will agree with me on this, but Somehow, accepting that the eating disorder started with my inherent traits, grew out of environmental factors, and developed into what it was gives me the control back. It tells me that this started with me. And I can end it. And it doesn’t mean I have to completely destroy myself of cut out these things that felt as though they were a part of me for so long. But rather, I can repurpose them. Use them to a new end. Change the world with them. If these things started out as good, they can be good again. I evolved once.Who says I can’t again?So no. I am not sorry. I am proud.

Kesha Opens Up

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The Daily Mail this week, published a great article about Kesha’s struggle with ED. “There was a lot of not eating—and I started to think being hungry to the point of feeling almost faint was a positive thing.”

Read the full article here.

Love Like Violence

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We have teamed up with LoveLikeViolence to promote healthy body image and self esteem by launching the I Love Me For Me campaign!

To join our I Love Me For Me campaign, purchase Love Like Violence’s newest single, ‪#‎Skeleton‬ along with an ‪#‎ILLVMe4Me‬ T-shirt on iTunes, Google Play or Amazon.

75% of your donation will go towards ‪#‎ProjectHEAL‬’s scholarship fund for people with eating disorders who cannot afford treatment. Spread the word!

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We Are More Than Our Body

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Jenn Hand is todays guest blogger. She is a holistic health practitioner and advocate, as well as an author.

handOur society’s approach to our bodies and to fitness in general is based on the concept of deficit.We push ourselves through boot camp classes to make our thighs smaller.We endure countless hours of sit-ups to flatten our bellies.We suffer through awful diet regimes in the hopes of losing weight.We approach our bodies as if they are a problem needing to be solved.

Check out the latest cover of any women’s magazine and you’ll see titles like: “5 Ways to Sculpt your  Glutes,” “Get the Best Beach Body Ever,” ” Lose that Arm Flab in 2 Weeks” … and on and on.The message here is, “There’s something wrong with you, and here’s how to fix it.”We will forever be reaching for that ideal of perfection because we are incapable of attaining the look of the airbrushed model on the cover.

But what if we took a different approach to our bodies? An approach that doesn’t involve fixing, altering and perfecting ourselves? What if we begin with the notion that just by being, we are already perfect. We are already complete, whole, and acceptable as we are.

We find that place within ourselves, the place that doesn’t criticize and judge us for a number on a scale or the size of our thighs. By acknowledging this place within us, we begin to change.Instead of exercising to sculpt, change, and tighten, what if we simply moved our bodies in ways that brought us satisfaction and joy?This a radical mindset shift because we are inundated daily with society’s belief that our bodies need to be fixed.

To be able to move, run, walk and dance is truly a gift. If we spend time IN these activities, IN our bodies, and IN the pleasure that movement brings us, we can begin to appreciate all our bodies do for us. This begins to shift our mindset from one of deficit and criticism, to acceptance and celebration.We begin with our own beliefs.We lift weights not to get chiseled, but because being stronger allows us to carry bags of groceries, lift our kids when we play and move heavy furniture when we need to.We run not to burn off last night’s dessert, but because it fills our lungs with fresh air, energizes our spirit and leaves us refreshed.

We sweat through a hot yoga class not to lose weight, but because it relieves the day’s tension and allows stress to melt away.

Shifting away from criticism, we begin to appreciate our bodies for all the wondrous things they do for us. Our thoughts toward our bodies become more compassionate and we see that physical transformation is only one aspect of our lives.

We are more than our body; we are our hearts and spirits, our hopes, dreams and passions.Beginning to soften our beliefs and enjoy our bodies for the pleasure they bring enables us to begin to change on the inside. And since lasting changes come from the inside out, transformation happens on all levels — mind, spirit and body.


Jenn Hand is a speaker, writer, author, world traveler, holistic health advocate, and founder of  Her life’s mission is to help women heal their relationship with food, find freedom around eating, and find lasting comfort in their bodies.”

Pussy Cat Dolls Singers’ New Album is About Recovery

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You may remember Nicole Scherzinger from the hit group of the early 2000’s the Pussy Cat Dolls. Or you may have watched her on the UK version of the X Factor where she acted as a judge. Now, with her second solo album recently released, Nicole is an act all her own. What you might not know about her new album is that some of its inspiration came from her struggles with eating disorders. She opens up about this in an article for the entertainment and digital news site Digital Spy, as well as in an interview with BBC Breakfast. The album, Big Fat Lie and its title track was written from a “place of strength…to help other people and inspire other people battling any disorders or any diseases themselves.” She went on to say that she “decided to title the album [Big Fat Lie] because things aren’t always what they seem. Facing those issues head-on is what has gotten [her] to the most authentic place now and a courageous place to be able to talk about it a lot and deal with it; Create something beautiful from maybe something that wasn’t once so beautiful.”

Some strength and inspiration for the end of your week.

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Step by Step: Turn Your Worst Moments into Your Greatest Achievements

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Brian Cuban, Keynote Speaker, Author of “Shattered Image: My Triumph Over Body Dysmorphic Disorder,” and one of Project HEAL’s Advisory Board Members, chronicles his first-hand experiences living with, and recovering from clinical depression, twenty-seven years of eating disorders and Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD),drug and alcohol addiction through a video titled:

“Step By Step: Turn Your Life Around”:

Brian Cuban Presents: Eating Disorders Do Not Discriminate

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Brian Cuban Helping The Heal For Eating Disorders

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By: Joab Nevo

The younger brother of Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban, who had struggled with eating disorders for 27 years and has dedicated himself to spreading awareness of the illness and helping others who suffer from it, hosted a special New York photo exhibit in aid of the cause on Friday, June 21.



Brian Cuban may be known as the younger brother of entrepreneur and Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban, but the 53 year-old lawyer is also making a name for himself as an authority on male eating disorders. Cuban, who serves on the Advisory Board for nonprofit organization Project HEAL (“Help to Eat, Accept and Live”) and has recently published a memoir reciting his struggles with anorexia and bulimia, took to the stage Friday night to host the nonprofit’s sixth annual fundraising gala.

The highlight of the event, which was held at gastro-lounge EVR in New York, was a breathtaking photo exhibit called “Faces of Recovery” – a collection of black and white photographs by world-renowned photographer Steve Eichner, depicting eating disorder survivors smiling and holding signs that say what recovery means to them, and many of the hundreds of images they inspired over social media.

Brian Cuban battled anorexia and bulimia for 27 years. His journey began in the late 1970s, when the issue was still regarded as taboo, and the publicized struggles of familiar names like singer Karen Carpenter were considered a rarity.

“I was going through this back when no one knew what eating disorders were,” Cuban says. “Karen Carpenter brought eating disorders in the pre-cable era into the national spotlight, but really cemented the stereotype as a women’s disorder.”

Ashamed of his situation, Cuban kept quiet and turned to alcohol and drugs, and even considered suicide. The turning point came in 2007, when, after coming out of a two day blackout, he decided that he “had no more looks into the abyss”, he says.

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“The next day I walked into my shrink’s office and finally got honest about my childhood, addictions, and eating disorders. I had been lying to him for years, telling him everything was fine … Once I got honest, everything changed.”

When he decided to go public with his eating disorder, he did it in front of millions on television and newspapers across the world.

“It was a very scary thing to do”, he says. “It was even more scary because of the stigma around eating disorders and body identity issues in men.”

The positive response and support he has encountered pushed Cuban to become a vocal activist in the fight against eating disorders. Last year, he authored a book about his struggles, titled “Shattered Image: My Triumph Over Body Dysmorphic Disorder”. His message to others: Regardless of your age, you can get a fresh start on your life.

“I want people to know that as someone who was 45 before he began his eating disorder recovery, it’s never too late to begin a life free from eating disorders no matter how old you are”, he declares.


Brian Cuban was born on January 11, 1961, in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. He earned his undergraduate degree from Pennsylvania State University and his law degree from The University of Pittsburgh School of Law.

He is an authority on male eating disorders, a lawyer, and activist in the areas of First Amendment issues and hate speech. He has discussed hate speech issues in the cyber-bullying and Holocaust denial areas with Facebook management, and has been trying to have pages with names such as “Holocaust: A Series of Lies” and “Holocaust is a Holohoax” removed from Facebook since 2008.

He also serves as Executive Director of the Mark Cuban Foundation, which directly supports the Fallen Patriot Fund. Cuban’s brother Mark started the Fallen Patriot Fund to help families of U.S. militarypersons killed or injured during the Iraq War, personally matching the first $1 million in contributions with funds from the Mark Cuban Foundation.

Cuban also runs a blog called “The Cuban Revolution”, that he uses as a platform to discuss many First Amendment legal battles and news stories, and serves as the segment host for “Brian Cuban’s Legal Briefs” on EyeOpener TV.



*initially published in Jewish Business News